We all love our children. But sometimes children afflict. Sometimes they behave badly, and sometimes very disgusting. Many parents feel confused when it comes to punishment of the child. Moreover, parents may feel powerless and helpless when they havetwo opposite desiresare fighting: the desire to punish the offense and the reluctance to cause pain or harm to the child.
The first question that tortures all parents regarding the punishment for children is whether to use the corporal punishment. If earlier education science approved such methods of influence, now they look like barbarity. In words, you can have strong persuasions about the fact that the physical punishment of the children is an absolute harm, and must not be used in any case. But as a rule,such theory always fails when faced with reality. And the parentsstart to give out slaps and cuffs, whichjust yesterday were sure that they never will raise a hand to their own child.
People tend to make mistakes. In a fit of anger, we often can’t control our emotions. One thing is to give the child not a strong slap, and another thing is to take the belt. Of course, in fact all parents resort to corporal punishment someday. But you should never allow yourself to anything more than a weak slap. And you can slapthe child on the soft parts of the body. But you should forget about cuffs once and for all; it can lead to micro concussion of the brain.
Ideally, you should keep the corporal punishment to a minimum, and it is better never to resort to them. If you find it difficult to control yourself, go to a special training course of the anger management. Work more on yourself; don’t let anger get the better of intelligence. You should always stay prudent. Remember that there is not only the physical punishment, but there are many other methods of influence on the child.
Good parent educates and bad one punishes. Even when the child is at fault, you should not just punish him, but give the educational work. This means that you must to inform the child about the exact reason you punish him and what he should not do to not to take the punishment again. Never punish the child for something he didn’t know that he can’t do; this is your fault that youdidn’t explain him anything in time.
Always be based on the child's age. More than likely that the 2 year old childwill not understand cause and effect relations, if the punishment follows not immediately after the offense. But the children from 5-6 years of age are able to catch the main point of the punishment.
Many educators and psychologists recommend using special mats or chairs for punishment. This isthe alternative of the old method of putting the child "in a corner" as a punishment. It’s better to avoid the corner method, as it has a significant psychological pressure on the child. Instead of you can send the delinquent child onto the mat or the chair with the pointing out of time to spend in silence and without moving. Particularly well this method works for naughty children: 2-3 minutes of time spent in the place for punishment they have time to quiet down and digress.
If the child still doesn’t know the time, you can put the clockin front of himand show where should be the minute hand when the punishment is over. For children up to 3 years the punishment should not be longer than 3 minutes. For children of 6 years old is already allowed 10-minute standing on a mator sitting on the chair in the case of faults. For the schoolchildsuch punishment has no effect.
What other method of punishment is acceptable? You can deprive the child of privileges:watching cartoons, playing on the computer, going to the movies. There is no point todeprive the child of walking in the street as a punishment, as it is harmful to his health. Don’t forget to explain the childin detail the exact reason you don’t allow him to watch TV or play on the computertoday. You canabolish not all privileges, but just reduce the number of pleasuresfor delinquent children.
In any case don’t punish the child by household tasks. The cleaning of the room should be the unforced duty for the child, and not the punishment.