Do you know what to do if the child is afraid of doctors?20 November
Fear of doctor visits in children is a very common occurrence. This is not surprising, because the medical procedures can be painful and very unpleasant, from both psychological and physical points. If many adults are afraid of people in the white coats, so what to speak about the children? Certainly the children are very nervous at the sight of the doctors, and at attempt ofgiving a shot he can put on a real "show", which, of course, damages the nerves of the parents and troubles the doctors. So how can you deal with the child's fear of doctors and medical manipulations?
First, the fear of seeing a doctor in children of 1-3 years appears more for fear of being separated from their mother. For this reason you should always be present at the medical examination and procedures, and to encourage the child as possible. Many of the procedures are carried out so that the child is in your hands at that time. So it’s better not to go to the clinic alone with the child, but taking with the husbandor any of the relatives or friends. They can hold your stuff, run for the necessary documents, etc. This way the child will always be with you and will not feel lonely.
The effective method is to turn attention. Take the favorite toy of your childthat attracts most intensely his attention. In case of a long wait in line, be sure to bring with your own drinking water for the child and make sure he would not become bored.
Be sure to tell your child in advance about the actions that the doctor will hold. Don’t make unpleasant surprises to the child; let him know what is coming. But don’t go in telling the child about the needles and other such stuff. Give him simple and positive information.
There may be many interesting things at the doctor's office that will distract the child’s attention from his fear. Going to the doctor with a child, the first time try not to bother him and to make himstaying quiet. Let him to get used to the new atmosphere. Then you can draw his attention to some interesting posters on the walls or even to paper where the doctor writes.
Remember: don’t threaten the child by the doctorvisits, don’t use the image of the doctor as a punitive force that will bring the punishment for naughtiness! This can lead to aggravation of the fear, but also can affect the development of severe neuroses associated with a fear of doctors and medical procedures that may even be a great hindrance for the child in the adult life.
You should note that the creation of a positive image of the doctor also doesn’t always help. If you overplay saying that the doctor don’t do anything bad, and then the child will be hurt, he can feel the distrust not only to doctors but also to you.
Telling your child about the upcoming procedures, try not to say it too worried tone. Speak about it as a normal and ordinary part of human life. You can talk about the other children who went to the doctor and how the doctors helped them.
The most important thing is: let the child’s courage will always be rewarded. You can agree first what reward he will get for his patience. It’s absolutely not necessary to buy sweets or toys; it can also be a practical thing. The main thing is that the child gets compensation for his efforts, which he spends overcoming the fear of doctors' treatments.
Don’t scold the child if he can’t cope with fear. You also shouldn’t shame the child and hold upother childrenin the example who are not afraid of needles and doctors. It’s better to talk often to the child about his fear, try to soften it, show your love and support. You can refer to a child psychologist, if you think that the usual fear of medical intervention in the child begins to take pathological form (for example, the child begins to be afraid of any person in white coatsuch as sellers, hairdressers, etc.). Remember that it is much easier to prevent the rise of fear than to get rid of it after. So start to prepare the child to the doctorvisits from the youngest age.